We live in a culture that fucks us up. They tell us to be pretty and sexy and smile and wear lacy underwear and high heels and wax everything and get our nails done and wear lipstick and bat our eyelashes and flirt and giggle and be skinny and behave…

Born into so much chaos and trauma. Did I choose this body? A karmic challenge. Substance abuse and violence permeated my childhood. Mice and cockroaches. Blood and broken glass. Handsy visitors in my sleep. Shame. Introspection through therapy, coaching, and the 12 Steps pulled me out of my own self-destructive coping skills. Looking inward, expanding outward. Finding my worth. Taking up space. Asking for what I want. Knowing what I deserve. Savoring myself.

How To Ask For What You Want “Where two (or more) consenting adults show curiosity about fulfilling each other’s fantasies, new levels of trust and intimacy can be reached. It starts with clear and respectful communication.” B says, “I want my boyfriend to be rougher with me. …

It’s perfect. — This act of self-love has done wonders for my self-esteem and self-image. It has even had the glorious side effect of actually making me more beautiful. No, really. It is. Regardless of how much I weigh or how tall I am… how much things have changed or moved over the…

He probably didn’t use those words exactly, but that’s what I heard. I had a rough start. I can only tell you the way I remember it. Like, if I were hooked up to a lie detector, they would detect no lie. But other people may have a different way…

Don’t Forget the Lube “Allow this time to enjoy yourself. Explore. Experiment. Look at your vulva. Touch it. Pay attention. Give yourself this gift. You are worth it.” R wants to know why her health class in school only talked about women’s anatomy as it relates to reproduction. I am…

“Touching yourself in this way is a revolutionary act. It’s bold, powerful, valuable! …This is your body — yours to know, yours to please, yours to love.” L’s question: How do you start… you know… touching yourself? Such a brave question! How do you feel about your body? That’s a…

I know what I like and how I want to be seduced. I know that I want foreplay to start hours… days in advance. I just quit my job. More accurately, I requested a leave of absence for a year (the approval letter came in the mail today), but I…

“Clear communication helps us ask for what we want, inside and outside of the bedroom. It has the potential to make us more confident and capable in all areas of our lives!” Hello, ladies. Come on in; have a seat. Let’s talk about sexuality and desire. That’s why you’re here…