Jan 14, 2022
Who Do You Think You Are? Slut
We live in a culture that fucks us up.
They tell us to be pretty and sexy and smile and wear lacy underwear and high heels and wax everything and get our nails done and wear lipstick and bat our eyelashes and flirt and giggle and be skinny and behave and perform and conform and contort and be pure and be a freak, but not too much. Slut.
They tell us we laugh too loud and take up too much space and are too vulgar and eat too much and have unreasonable expectations and shouldn’t want or desire and shouldn’t touch ourselves and shouldn’t ask for more. Be quiet. Take it. Obey.
People don’t answer our questions. They make us feel dirty and ashamed. Don’t think about it. Don’t talk about it. Don’t ask about it. Don’t make us uncomfortable. You shouldn’t want that. What is wrong with you?
Shame is so powerful! It gets deposited inside of us sometimes very young. Maybe because of some kind of abuse or violence. Maybe because of purity culture. Maybe the adults in our lives passed their own shame along.
You are perfect. Your body is perfect. Your desires are perfect.
I am here to tell you there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfect. Your body is perfect. Your desires are perfect. You deserve to talk about sex and ask questions about things that make you curious. You are worth taking the time to explore your body. Respect and adoration and honoring of what you want is a totally reasonable expectation.
You get to find out what you want and like and what stimulates you or turns you off. You get to ask for it without judgement or criticism. Without shame.
It is ok to push the envelope past whatever they told you was normal or acceptable or real. You don’t have to be limited.
Do you want to wear lace or velvet or leather? Do it. Do you want to shave everything or nothing? Do it. Do you want someone to suck on your toes? Fantastic. Do you want to be dominated? Hot. Would you prefer to cum with a vibrator on your clitoris and a finger in your ass? Great! Not sure about any of those things? It’s ok not to know. It’s ok to just try it.
We deserve to take up space. Don’t let them tell you what to want or how to be.
That shame you feel? That is someone else’s voice telling you you’re bad. They are trying to control you.
